Hi I'm a 27 year old female from British Columbia, Canada. I work in retail as a sales assoicate. I have an above average intelligence about relationships and mental health issues and love giving advice to those in need. My parents bitterly divorced when I was 13 and through this I learned a lot about relationships. I've also lived through a severe depression and mental breakdown in my early twenties, so I know a lot about mental health. If anyone has a question for me about either of these topics I would be glad to answer as best to my abililty. I would just like to add how much joy this site had brought to my life. I truly believe that by helping others you help yourself.
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I have a huge problem! theres this girl, beka, who i cannot stand. She had a stroke before she was born and her arm and leg are paralized, but shes not in a weelchair. I dont judge her about her physical abilities. She takes a shower maybe once or twice a week, she never brushes her hair, and most disgustingly, she has bloody noses alot and she just lets it like dry up and sit there all over her nose!
the worst part is that she (voluntarily)sits with us at lunch and i can barely eat! We used to be friends (sort of... I never really liked her that much) a few years ago. Now she is kinda mean and just real weird. She cries alot when she doesnt get her way, and were in seventh grade! When im around her sometimes she is really rude to other people and I think they might not like me either. I think Beka thinks she can get away from things because of her problem, but she HATES it when people try to help her do stuff. It is SO confusing. I really dont want to be friends with her. Lately i have completely ignored her,even though i feel really bad about doing that. Most of the time she like bows down to me and follows me around EVERYWHERE. I have tried asking her to stop whatever shes doing wrong, and she says sorry about twenty times. But then she just keeps on doing what i asked her to stop doing! I dont know how to say that i dont want to be friends with her
I know it sounds mean, but I just cant stand her any more! SOMEBODY HELP PLEASE!!!
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Wow, this is a tough one. I know you don't want to be mean; but at the same time, you need to keep your sanity.
I was in a similar situation in highshool. There was a girl who always tried hanging out with us and she never showered, and was scaring away other people from us. She would even throw tantrums. I remember one time when she voluntarily sat down with us; and I was talking about getting together that weekend with me friends. I never said she was invited, so she got out of her chair and threw it at us!
We did something very mean and I an NOT recommending you do this at all. We wrote her a letter telling her to stay away from us, and that people thought she smelled. I didn't really want to sign it, but my friends pressured me. I felt horrible and even phoned her that night to apologize.
I think the best thing to do is maybe talk to one of your teachers about the situation. Say that you don't want to hurt Beka's feelings, but that she is driving you crazy and that she is scaring away other potential friends.
It sounds like Beka is a very disturbed young lady and has a lot of personal problems that you just can't handle. Maybe she is having problems at home. You said she hardly ever showers or brushes her hair? These are both signs of depression. You also said she cries all the time. Maybe if you talk to your teacher, the teacher can phone Beka's parents and they can all work together to get her some proffesional help. She may even need to be on anti-depressants.
In the meantime, try to keep your distance. Don't be really mean to her either. Remember you are probably the only friend she has. I hope for your sake and Beka's that either her parents or her teachers will take this matter seriously and get her some help.
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