Hi I'm a 27 year old female from British Columbia, Canada. I work in retail as a sales assoicate. I have an above average intelligence about relationships and mental health issues and love giving advice to those in need. My parents bitterly divorced when I was 13 and through this I learned a lot about relationships. I've also lived through a severe depression and mental breakdown in my early twenties, so I know a lot about mental health. If anyone has a question for me about either of these topics I would be glad to answer as best to my abililty. I would just like to add how much joy this site had brought to my life. I truly believe that by helping others you help yourself.
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My girlfriend(17years old) has been raped by three different people. She only trusts me and hasnt got the confidence to tell anybody else. This means that the responsibility is down to me to give her my own sort of counseling service. I'm not really sure as to what to do apart from help her get it all out. Please could somebody give me some tips on more counselling advice? It would be much appreciated.thankyou x (link)
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Firstly, you are NOT a professional councellor which is what your gf needs. Someone who has been raped, especially by 3 different people would have been traumatized, and I'm actually shocked that she even is dating you considering how shattered her self confidence and self worth are. You must be a very special young man for her to be able to open her heart to you and tell her this horrible secret. For that I commend you.
So in the meantime, you must be careful when you choose your words, listen to her with compassion, and NOT pressure her into any sexual activity until she's ready. I've heard stories of girls who were raped or abused by previous bf's, and when their new bf's tried to make a move on them they would freak out.
Is it possible that you could talk to your school counsellor and tell him/her the situation? If your gf is too uncomfortable to talk to someone from school, maybe the counsellor could refer her to someone else. Remind her that everything she says would stay confidential.
She might even need to talk to a psychiatrist. Is she depressed? Is she on any medication? I'm wondering if she might be better of on an anti-depressant. I used see a pyschiatrist to help me with my depression and she prescribed prozac. It did wonders for me.
I wish you all the best, and hope you can get your gf some badly needed help.
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Thankyou for your answer, it will be taken into consideration. Thanks also for the time you must have put into it. x tasha x
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