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Heyy my names Julianne but a lot of people call me Jules. I'm almost 18 and a senior in high school. I made a column because I love helping people and its really easy for me to relate to a lot of questions because I've gone through a lot myself. I'm open to any question you have so feel free to ask me anything =]
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I have a boyfriend and he is really nice. He is always very sweet and considerate of me. He has made it clear that he really likes me alot and I like him too.
He sounds really outgoing on the phone, but then at school he is so nervous, he can barely talk to me. My friends and I get the feeling that he thinks I'm really popular and experienced which actually, I'm not. So on instant messenger he kept saying, "Were going to make on on Monday and school" and he always calls me "babe" on the phone or computer. But then at school, he is so nervous around me.
So, is he a jerk, or just one really nervous insecure kid?
believe it or not, a lot of people have that problem. he is definetly not a jerk. when hes on the phone with you or on AIM hes more comfortable beacuse you cant see him and neither can anybody else. he knows that you 2 are the only ones that know what you guys talk about.. which is why its a good idea to not tell all the details to your friends. in school its a completely different story because not only does he have to worry about what you think about how he looks and says... but he has to worry about what other people think because theyre probably watching and listening. you need to help him.. but dont put him in an awkward position. be discrete. heres what to do: ease him into being more outgoing in person. if he doesnt feel comfortable around you at school go out in public by yourselves. try the movies first (its dark so its not a big step) then ease him into the mall, then maybe have a bunch of people over. etc. he'll gradually become more comfortable showing other people (including you) his outgoing side. and also make sure you encourage him to be outgoing. just smile and laugh and have fun.
(Rating: 5) thanks!