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Okay, well I made a promise not to lose my virginity before I got married. Not only did I promise myself, but I promised my friend (let say his name is Mark). So.. I found this guy I'm totally heels over head with (lets say his name is Anthony). I fell for this guy, and within the first 3 months, we became intimate. This was back in September. We're still together, and going strong, but we do have sex. I know I broke that promise to myself, but my friend had JUST found out (months later) and now like thinks I'm so stupid, and that I hurt him and blah blah blah. Cuz he's my "best friend", and yeah if you can't tell, he likes me ALOT. And I feel like I've let him down. I love Anthony, I don't regret having sex with him, and I'll keep having it. But how do I tell Mark that he needs to move on, and that it's my own life. Please give me good answers, I'll give good ratings!! (link)
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Mark can't be responsible for your choics any more than you can be responsible for his. You've made a decision you're happy with - you're in a good relationship, you're having sex, you see yourself continuing this way for the foreseeable future. Good for you!
You don't need to be made to feel bad about your choices. Just let Mark know that while you felt you were making the best decision at the time, people change. Flexibility is part of life.
If Mark cares for you, no doubt he feels threatened by your boyfriend. He probably also feels hurt that you didn't share your change of heart with him. Try to have an honest conversation without getting agressive or defensive, and then back off. Mark needs to decide if he wants to continue in the friendship or not, since you can't 'make' him okay about your choice to have sex.
Best of luck.
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thank you so so sooooo much ! ! your advice helped me alot ! !
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