Q: I've been really good friends with this kid...Andy...for 5 years. We started having feelings for each other, and during the summer 2 years ago, we started dating. But at the end of the summer, I found out that we were moving, and so I moved to Ohio and he stayed in Michigan. We have really strong feelings for each other...we can't stop thinking about each other and we talk at least once a week on the phone. Whenenver I visit Michigan, we always hook up but of course, it can never last since I live out of state. Last year, he tried dating other people, but it never really worked cause I was the one he wanted. I also tried dating other people, and again, it wasn't the same. Our feelings for each other were just too strong. Lately, I've grown an interest in two guys...and I want to try dating them, but I don't want to hurt Andy. I could start dating other people...but the thing is--and i know how selfish this sounds--that would give Andy permission to date, and i don't want Andy to date other girls because there's a chance that he could feel just as strongly for them as he feels for me.
Things are so complicated--yet they could be so easy--but I'm not willing to let myself lose him. I could just stay with him...but what if we have to keep our relationshiop the way it is now? On the phone and on my few trips to Michigan?
Or if I do date, I could lose him to another girl.
I just love him too much to let him go.
Please help.
