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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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You want the short answer? Yes.
Whether he was criticizing you because of his own insecurities or because he's just insensitive makes no difference. This early on in a relationship people are usually on their best behaviour.
For him to be saying such hurtful things this early on is a big red flag.
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Thankyou for taking to time to answer!! I appreciate it!
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