Hi I'm a 27 year old female from British Columbia, Canada. I work in retail as a sales assoicate. I have an above average intelligence about relationships and mental health issues and love giving advice to those in need. My parents bitterly divorced when I was 13 and through this I learned a lot about relationships. I've also lived through a severe depression and mental breakdown in my early twenties, so I know a lot about mental health. If anyone has a question for me about either of these topics I would be glad to answer as best to my abililty. I would just like to add how much joy this site had brought to my life. I truly believe that by helping others you help yourself.
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ok well, a few of my friends and ALOT of people in my school and some even carry around condoms in their purses and stuff. some of my friends havnt done it yet but claim to love their boyfriends so their thinking about doing it. they're afraid they'll get pregnat and stuff like that or they're boyfriends will leave them or something. they say that sex is the most wonderful gift you can give to someone. then why does EVERYONE these days have sex ALL THE TIME?!?!? and another thing why is it the best thing you can give someone? i mean really? i personally dont think its a big deal to be a virgin before your married i mean, whats the diffrence? ok ONE last question for you. i love my boyfriend too and i would consider having sex with him(depending on the answers above) but how would i bring the subject up with him? please answer and sorry for all the questions. (link)
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I don't think you should be worried about what everyone else is doing, just try to think realistically about this. FACT: you are only 13, and are in no way emotionally ready for such an intimate encounter.
We tend to forget that sex is a profound emotional experience; we're baring ourselves to another person in every way with full trust that the other person won't double over in hysterical laughter pointing at us, or give way to uncontrollable nausea, or just make a face and say "Never mind, your'e not what I had in mind anyway." Casual sex is never as truly casual as some people would have us think; it triggers emotional as well as physical responses, and it has a fallout.
That's why, because so much is at stake when it comes to sex, it's always a good idea not to have sex or to make love, which is what sex really should be, until you feel ready. I don't mean excited or in the grip of hormonal surges (guys get them too)-- I mean ready as a human being with a heart and a brain and a soul as well as a body.
I'll tell you something else about people's talk about their lives and pasts. Much of it is BS. Lot's of people, girls and boys alike, present themselves as more experienced about sex then they really are. They do this because they are feeling insecure, and try to dispel that insecurity by puffing up their pasts.
One other that I know about sex- honesty is always important. As I said above, you are baring yourself to another person in all sorts of ways, not just the clothing optional way. If the guy is experienced and you're not but you say that you are, he will figure out tht youre not pretty quickly. And then the lie will be between you, and you don't want that there.
I hope this helps answer, your question, and take care.
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