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I have known this girl since kindergarden right. Now we are in 8th grade and for some reason, this year i really seem to like her. I mean she is nice, funny, smart, and very beautiful. How can i not like her. But the problem is, i have trouble finding the courage to ask her out. I am good with girls in the sense of friendship, but when it comes to love life, im a mess. I am 14 and she is 13. i am 11 months older than her but i really dont see that as an issue. But i always get nervous when i tcomes to askig a girl out nd i did it once, she said ye, than rejeted me the next day. (that was a different girl). Is it normal to be that nervous? Oh and one more thing, what do you ask when you want to ask her out. I really am not good with "pick-up" line. Thanks
P.S. im asking you because i read your advice and it looks good! will rank high (link)
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First of all, thank you so much for asking me personally. You have no idea how good that makes me feel.
Before you jump into asking her out, is she showing any signs of liking you too? If she is, you're all set to go. If you're unsure, you might want to try spending one-on-one time with her first.
It is very normal to feel nervous. Are you kidding me? You are putting your heart out on the line. It's a scary thing! Just realize that she isn't your life and if things don't work out, you'll eventually get over it and find someone new. Really.
So, about asking her out. Don't ask her out online, on the phone, or in a note. It's easier for you, but not as meaningful to her and that gives you a bigger chance of her saying no. I would either ask her if you can talk to her alone sometime at school and just say something along the lines of "I've really liked you for a while and I was wondering if you would like to go out with me?" It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just get the point across.
Another possibility is asking her if she wants to go somewhere with you and at the end of the date, ask her to be your girlfriend. You can just say "Hey, want to go have lunch at [enter restaurant here] with me tomorrow?" It doesn't seem like there's any pressure and if things seem to be working out while you're out together, at the end you can ask her out.
The only thing is, if she says no at the restaurant you will be stuck with her until either of you leaves. Whereas at school you can just say "oh, it's okay." and walk away.
You have to be prepared for the best, and for the worst.
Don't worry about using pick-up lines. Girls usually don't like that. Especially if you already know each other it's not necessary. Just be yourself. Nice and fun. And don't be afraid to compliment her.
Best of luck. Let me know how it goes!
and I am constantly checking this, as you can tell since I responded so quickly. So if you need anything else...
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Rating: 5
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Very good advice. makes perfect sense. 5 * all the way!
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