Hi I'm a 27 year old female from British Columbia, Canada. I work in retail as a sales assoicate. I have an above average intelligence about relationships and mental health issues and love giving advice to those in need. My parents bitterly divorced when I was 13 and through this I learned a lot about relationships. I've also lived through a severe depression and mental breakdown in my early twenties, so I know a lot about mental health. If anyone has a question for me about either of these topics I would be glad to answer as best to my abililty. I would just like to add how much joy this site had brought to my life. I truly believe that by helping others you help yourself.
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Im 15 and a guy. One of my friends came out of the closet.He told his best friend and she made him tell me. I told the girl that he liked that he was gay. Then he find out and he yelled at me and so did his best friend. Now niether of them want to talk to me or look at me. They hate me. I lost half of my only true friends. My best friend said that she heard him say that he was going to hire someone to beat me up. I feel horrible. I recently told all of my friends that I myself was gay. I feel horrible about this all. I dont want to lose them as friends.I have had them forever as friends. I feel like im losing half of myself. What do I say to make everything right? I need some advice. (link)
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Wow, that's quite a complication you've gotten yourself into. Well I guess you don't need me to tell you that what you did to your friend was a really awful thing. Coming out of the closet at such a young age must have been really hard for him to do, and instead of being able to trust his friend you go and tell the girl that he liked!! Well atleast you're acknowledging that what you did was wrong. But then again, it's probably too little, too late.
Personally I think what you did was pretty much a deal breaker. But if they've been your friends for a long time, maybe it's possible to fix this.
What you can do is apologize to both of your friends for breaking confidentiality. Does your friend who just came out of the closet know that you are also gay? Maybe if you told him this it would make him feel a little bit better. I can't guarantee that this will put you back in their good graces, but it can be a first step in healing the wound that you caused your friend.
Another thing that you can do is to talk to the girl that your gay friend liked. Tell her that you were just joking around, and that your friend is really straight. If she doesnt believe you, say something along the lines of "we were having a fight and I did it to get back at him".
Well I hope that it all works out for you. I believe that you are truly sorry for what you did, and that shows that you are still a good person. Good Luck.
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Thank you for all of your advice. I am now friends with my friends again and me are all now happier. It did make my friend feel better that he was not the only gay guy at school. Everybody is alot more open with eachother now and everything is going really good. You are wonderful at giving advice.God bless you
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