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Now this must be weird to go online and try to find someone to give you advice about your problems, but i dont think it's bad. I've been through like everything even though i'm only 15. If you have any problem at all, try to just bomb it because you really need to get it out of your system. So IM me on AOL, Yahoo, MSN, or just leave your question here. i'm going to check my account here everyday. Thankyou! And I hope to help!

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Ok guys, Im somewhat at a loss. Most questions on this website tend to be at least somewhat mundane. Stuff that, while it could be very important to the poster, isnt life threatening or seriously life altering.

However, every once in a while, we come to the ones that ask a question about something where they stand to screw either their own, someone elses, or both lives.

Case in point, Ive just answered the second question from a girl who is 16 and wants to get pregnant when shes single, living at home, and basically incapable of supporting herself, much less a baby.

Now, this is not the only example, just a very recent one. Worst of all, many of the questioners in these cases are completely opposed to opposing points of view. They are determined that theirs is the right course of action, and are determined to screw themselves and others in the process.

So, my question to the masses, is does anyone know how to get through to idiots like this? Does anyone even think its possible? Im asking mostly those 18 and up, anyone can respond but Im looking for viewpoints from people who are at least looking back at the high school perspective, not in the throes of it.

Thanks, and sorry for length.

-The Spirit Fox

Well, weird as it is, people think that doing stupid things, will make them happy. With your example, maybe she just wants to have something to love, and look forward to. I know, it isnt good that people are thinking these things, but it's not like we're their parents. They came to this site, to either get advice or attention. As just like that other girl said, we dont know their backrounds. We really cant do anything about it, sadly. We really dont have power over them. When you give someone advice, it's usually because you're trying to help them get through a problem and you pray that they pick what you said, but it's not TELLING them what to do. It's their lives, they have the chances and oprituniies to screw them up, sad as it sounds, maybe you should bring this up to someone like your example. Plus, i've found, that most questions asked here, are questions they people who asked, can answer themselves, that's why they came here. Hope i helped, and trust me, i feel your pain.

~Jill~

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(Rating: 5) I agree to a point. The problem that arises for me is that often its not just their lives that they are screwing up. I can live with some idiot fucking themselves over. Its when innocents (parents, the unborn/newborn child, friends, lovers) get screwed in the process that I have a serious problem. And Ive just encountered alot of situations lately where someone I care about got screwed because someone else I knew made a selfish obstinate choice.

In the case of the ones here, where I dont know their background, or them, it still bugs me because anyone can infer simple conclusions about a person who says certain things, and there is no "background" that justifies hurting others.

Thats like saying kids who are abused as children have the right to abuse others when they grow up because they had a fucked up childhood. Its just wrong.
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