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ok....i'm 19 and.about a year and a half ago, me and this guy chad started dating but i had to move a few months later so we broke up becuase we had to, not because we wanted to. then i come back home to visit some of my friends about 3 months later and hes dating one of my best friends, which i thought i was ok with. she felt bad. but then the past few months i realize how much i still love him and he talks to me all the time and calls me baby and cutie and i know for a fact he still wants me back and if i were to move back home we could be together but i dont want anything to happen to my friendship but i love this guy with everything i have. what do i do? _(link)

This is easier than you think it is. There is an unspoken code that is universal between friends 1) You never say anything bad about their relationship and 2) If you are in love with their partner never show it publically and where it will hurt, get back to them etc.

Obey the code! You are screwed if you show feelings for this guy in front of her or let it be known. If he wants to be with you he knows what to do and to break it off. Even then give her a grace period of a month or two before jumping all over the opportunity.

Their relationship will disolve on its own for now sit back and do nothing or risk losing both. Also, you mentioned living too far away for this guy anyways without moving back. I would wait and see what develops here as he may prove not to be worth it for you and or your friend.

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That is actually perfect advice, thank you!!

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