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I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything. (link)
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Hi,
She should have modesty but has not developed the maturity yet. However, why not focus on your own singing and have a good time? You are only hurting yourself by being so hateful. That is like drinking draino every day as it has an effect and makes you feel physically and mentally awful.
So what if she brags about what notes she hits or her ability? Tell her that's nice and go about your business. Over time she will learn if people change the subject away from her. It is her issue to figure out that this bothers people and not yours.
It really is not a concern at all of yours even if she is a slob to dislike her for it. You can tactfully point out she is making a mess and leaving like that.
You are trying to find every single fault you can with this girl to mask the fact you are jealous of her singing voice and perhaps need to cool it and become the better singer yourself.
If it is always me, me, me with her take her aside and let her know other people do not like it and or point that fact out to an adult who can address it. As far as she can see there is not a problem--others have to point it out.
Even then she may not see. But do not hate her for her short comings as you sure as hell would not want anyone to do that to you. Get to know who she REALLY is apart from this behaviour.
Stop hating her! If you cannot than let it be and mind your business and let her learn things on her own. To go out of your way to dislike her is dumb as only you know that you feel hate/anger she doesn't. It's hurting you--not her.
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You're right...I am kind of jealous, but I wouldn't hate her if she weren't so full of herself. And I do know her pretty well. And her problem isn't just "shortcomings"...she genuinely is full of herself. I'm not just saying this because I am jealous. Last year, I took gymnastics, and my friend was always the best, but I didn't get jealous of her because she was modest about it.
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