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Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!
Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.
I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.
At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.
What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.
It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much! (link)
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first i think you should talk to her about it. Ask her why you two dont talk, ask her why you are always the first one to start a convo. tell her you dont want to be a bad friend by not helping or giving advice, tell her she doesnt ask for it and you want her to. Talk to her.
Even though youu feel like you are losing touch with her, still try to make her feel better. I know it might feel wierd bc you may not feel that close with her anymore but, she really needs someone right now. she might not come to you first so maybe you could go over her house and comfort her.
so i would ask her why she hasnt been talking to you lately and donr give up till you have an anwser, you know? your her best friends and you have a right to know why she isnts talking to you.
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hope i helped!!
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