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My boyfriend was sick previously for a couple of days. One of the nights that he was really sick I happened to be with him. I didn't leave him all night, I was constantly making sure he was okay and if he needed anything. He told me he appreciated this a lot. The downside of me being with him that night is that he got me sick too. So, all day today I've been pretty sick. You could see it in my eyes how horrible I felt. He commented on that a few times throughout the day. I constantly told him I felt pretty bad. He said sorry. Tonight I called, told him I was feeling very sick. He was watching T.V and was kind of ignoring me, so I just told him I'd call him back with an 'I guess' at the end- hinting how I wanted him to stay. He didn't.
It kind of bothers me how I was waiting on him hand and foot and not letting it bother me that I was practically a butler for him for a night, but he couldn't do a simple thing such as stay on the phone and comfort me.
Is this selfish of me to want comfort and attention from him? _(link)

Okay this one will hard to wrap your head around so read it twice. Guys are BIG sucks when sick and want people to mother them. Their mom's did it for them and now they think you ought to. It's okay if you help and he was really sick but if they are not doing it back for you then stop. What goes around comes around.

I hate to say it but when it comes to being sick guys want their mom deep down. When they cannot have that they want a girlfriend to coddle them and make it better. Unless he gives this back to you then do not always come to his aid. He's a big boy and you are a big girl who can handle themselves when sick.

With guys we are also idiots sometimes and forget the girlfriend helping us is not something that is static and can go away. We better show appreciation but some of us idiots do not considering where our brains are located ;) So, if he does not want to help sigh and accept you cannot change him. And also be firm on never rushing to his aid when sick unless he's dying or hospitalized. He'll get it then.

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Thank you

-tekcoreht

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