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Ok. I'm 14 and I resently had sex with a guy I had never met before. He was around 21. I have rented a book over being pregnant and I have all the symptoms. I took the pregnancy test and sure enough I am. Well anyways I don't know who he is and i'm really scared. I don't know how to tell my parents and I want him to be there when I tell them! Well if you can help me or give me ideas to tell them and find him...Please HELP!!!
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I agree 100% with protossc541.
Having sex with him was illegal. You can't get into any trouble, but he could be charged with statutory rape, which is a crime that will get him listed on-line as a sex offender and punishable by 50 years jail time. Chances are, even if you find this guy he'll deny it and say the baby isn't his. Spare yourself the heartache. This is going to hurt enough as it is.
You really have to tell your parents. I know this is a horrible, scary thing. I know you must be scared to death right now. I understand--I had a scare like this once, which luckly was only a scare and I was so freaked out. But trust me. Once you get it out and tell your parents and own up to what you did, you'll be able to move on with your life.
I don't know what your personal beliefs on the subject are, but you probably shouldn't keep the child. 50% of teen mothers end up on welfare. You'll have a much better life if you can either find a family to raise the child for you or, if you're pro-choice, abort the baby. But you need to understand your options. www.plannedparenthood.com is a great site to answer the question "I'm pregnant...now what?"
I wish you the best of luck. You just need to take care of this problem and own up to it. You messed up. It does not mean you're a horrible person. It does not mean you're less than anyone else or a bad child. It means you made a mistake and now, like every other human, you have to deal with the consequences. Maybe you could have a good female friend go with you to tell your parents. Maybe you could write them a letter. Regardless, you have to tell them. They can't legally kick you out of the house. It will be okay.
Take care of yourself and the baby. Remember that smoking anything or drinking and even some pain medication can seriously damage a fetus. Also, DO NOT try a home abortion by drinking an "abortive substance." They can KILL you.
It WILL be okay.
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Thank you so much! I just wanted to let you know that I have found where he lives, but i still do not know his name.
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