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I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me?
Hey there,

I know that this is an easy thing to say, and a much harder thing to do, but you're going to have to talk to him. He obviously is too proud to approach you, and nothing is going to happen until you two are on speaking terms again. You could alternatively get your friends to do it, but it's probably better that you do it. If face to face is too difficult for you, then get his email address. I think you should apologize for the way you acted in Year 8 because he was obviously very hurt by this. I can understand why you didn't believe him.. after the way he had treated you and all, but in a way he "Redeemed" himself by trying to be nice to you and showing you he liked you. It's up to you now to make the move. You don't have to tell him you like him straight away, in fact, he might confess it himself. I'd say he definitley did like you, but cared wayyy too much about high school heirachies and his reputation (and the fact you weren't as popular as him) Saying this, I'd like to clarify I believe it's ridiculous to care about how popular someone is. But I'm just trying to see things from his perspective here. Whether he likes you now I'm a bit uncertain about, it sounds to me like he tries to get your attention, but I could be wrong. You need to become friends again or things will never progress between you two. Hopefully he can leave the past in the past and you two can finally get together rejecting any highschool class distinctions. :P

Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to IM me or drop one in my inbox. and let me know how it goes.

You make a lot of sense. I'm not sure I have the guts to follow your advice though.

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