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my bff (i will call her jane) & i have been bff for a while now. i like her (obviously) but sometimes she acts so insecure...like she wants to be friends with these other girls who obvioulsy aren't that nterested with her. sometimes when i am with her & feel bad, because she seems so focused on being frineds with them that i feel like she doesn't want to be hanging out with me. i know she likes me, but every once in a while she will do something on an important day (like dances, new years eve) & if i ask her if she wants to do something she will be like "no i can't, i am doing something with _____" and she won't even offer to have me come, which is something i always dowith my friends (unless they hate each other, which almost none do, they all get along). it makes me feel bad, but i also know that jane DOESN'T have that many friends, so i feel like she does it to sort of show off that she's doing something. ahould i say anything, i mean its not that serious & it only happens once in a while, but i feel sort of unwanted. we like never fight though, so i don't want to start anything!

i wouldn't approach her directly, but i would definately make an effort to show her how much you care and how much you think of her as a friend. maybe she will realize that those other "friends" can't compare to you.

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