Uh, lessee....Im 18 years old and I live in Scottsdale, Arizona. Im 5'1" and proud to be short ^^. Im a senior at Saguaro High School, though upon graduation I fully intend on going to Greystone University in Nappa, California. I want to be a pastry chef, and Greystone is extremely prestigious within the culinary world. Otherwise it wouldnt surprise me youve never heard of it. Im probably the biggest geek youll ever meet. Im a huge anime freak, I probably the foremost knowledge on the X-men out of all of my friends, though I love all Marvel. I heart Harry Potter. I spend whatever free time I have that Im not with my friends Role Playing online, as I am also a writer and find this an extremely usefull and entertaining excersise, and Im proud to be all of these things. Advice is an oppinion, therefore I do not care what you rate me. 1 or 5, it doesnt make a differance, and I therefore will not be detered in sharing said opinion.
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To give a little background, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year I'm 16 and he's 17. He would always get things in the mail from the Army, Navy and the Marines. He would save them, show it to me and I'd rip it up and tell him he's not going. The thought of my boyfriend going away to war is something I just CAN'T handle.
I was in his room, cleaning it up while he was in the shower like I always do and I found a flyer that had the information about the Navy on it... I was getting ready to rip it up when I saw that he had signed up for it..
I always told him that I'd be heartbroken if he would sign up for anything that COULD get him killed.
I'm trying SO hard to understand... But I can't. I don't know why he would do this to me. He keeps saying it's for the best but I KNOW it's not the best for him. He always told me he'd never leave me, but by doing this I feel like he is. He always told me, "You don't know what I would give just to see your beautiful face every day and just to have you in my arms, even if it's for 5 minutes." He's told me he wants to be the father of my children, my husband, my one and only.. If he's at war, how is he going to do that??
I really want to convince him NOT to go, but that's just being selfish... But at the same time I want him here with ME. I don't want to live every day in fear that I'll get that knock on my door and having someone tell me that the love of my life was killed.
So my questions are... SHOULD I convince him not to go and explain to him why I don't want him to?
If not, how can I get over this? How can I deal with it every day knowing that my boyfriend is risking his life? (link)
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It is his life, and you are only 16 and 17. You have a very long time ahead of you and you should realize that while you want it to, it may not last forever. Dont force him to make a choice he doesnt want to make and ruin his chances for a good future. I understand how you feel, Ive had friends go over there, and yes, one did die. But he died doing something he believed in, and while it pains me, it was his choice.
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He could have had a good future WITHOUT going to war. He's a straight A student, never gotten ANYTHING lower than an A-. He could go to HARVARD if he wanted to... How would him NOT going have ruined his chances of a good future? He could have a GREAT future without being there. I'm sorry about the loss of your friend, I lost someone close to me too, and that's what scares me so bad about him going.
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