I have a heart to help people; especially young people. I have a Bachelor's degree in pastoral studies and I can't wait to find a youth pastorate. Right now, I'm trying to pay off my school bill. I am married to a wonderful young lady who completes me. I don't know everything, by far, but I'll make this promise to you. Any advice I can offer will come from the infallible Word of God. What makes me think I can offer anything worthwhile. Well, it's God Who has the answers, but He utilizes His people as instruments. I, by reason of use (Heb.5), am able to help you understand what God says about your problem and how to respond to it. May God bless you and use me for His glory. --ByReasonofUse
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13/m I know I'm going through puberty. I just know it. I'm starting to feel the true emotions (love, rejection, jealousy, etc), and I'm starting to be cleverer (I'm starting to beat my dad at chess, which I haven't done for 8 years.) But despite these mental changes, I'm still physically the same. I mean, sure, I've started to get erections, but it's not like I'm showing that off at school! It's really annoying, how I have the highest voice in the school, and I'm the shortest guy in all my classes. Facial hair, I really don't give a damn, but now a few people think my high voice is annoying, and it annoys me too, and also my parents don't believe that I'm in love because I haven't shown any physical signs of puberty, and thusly I can't have had any mental either. What should I do? (Note: Smartasses get 1s and WILL be reported) (link)
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Hey, don't worry about any of this. It's normal. You are going through some changes. Everybody matures at different rates. My senior year of high school, there was a freshman who was 4'8" tall and weighed less than 90 pounds. He played baseball and wrestled on the wrestling team. You can't do anything about your situation. Just be who you are. It may be another two years before some of these other changes take place, but they will come. There are advantages to being smaller than others for a while. Find them and take advantage of them.
About the "love" situation. You're young. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but take your time. Things will come. Don't use the word love so liberally. It carries a lot of weight with it. I dated my wife for over seven months before I told her I love her. When I said it, she knew I meant that I would be with her for the rest of our lives. I am a Christian who believes in abstinence and purity. I understand you may not believe the way I do, but trust me on this one, you will be much happier and satisfied if you give it time. You should focus on school and sports (or whatever you're interested in) and don't get bogged down with a serious relationship right now. They are very stressful and can lead to a lot of hurt. Show your parents your are maturing in character and they will start to realize your not their baby boy any more. With freedom/independece comes a lot of responsibility. You have to be ready for all of it or none of it.
Because of who I am and what I believe, I have to try to encourage you to use better language. I'm not preaching, but think about it this way. People who use such language aren't showing they're "grown" or "growing." They show just the opposite. Don't be too lazy or too unsophisticated to take the time to form appropriate conversation. That will go a long way to gain respect and admiration of your peers and family.
--ByReasonofUse
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I actually don't use the word "love" liberally... just last week I vowed not to say the word Love unless it was the real thing, with this girl. And I know it's love. I can feel it as right as 2+2 is 4. And when I think about her, I feel like nothing can go wrong. I've been on Advicenators about two, three months now and read & answered hundreds of questions, not to mention read a lot of replies, and I know the difference between infatuation and love.
On a sidenote, I *cough* may or may not be 4'8" and less than 70 pounds... more extreme than that freshman... *coughcough*
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