I have a heart to help people; especially young people. I have a Bachelor's degree in pastoral studies and I can't wait to find a youth pastorate. Right now, I'm trying to pay off my school bill. I am married to a wonderful young lady who completes me. I don't know everything, by far, but I'll make this promise to you. Any advice I can offer will come from the infallible Word of God. What makes me think I can offer anything worthwhile. Well, it's God Who has the answers, but He utilizes His people as instruments. I, by reason of use (Heb.5), am able to help you understand what God says about your problem and how to respond to it. May God bless you and use me for His glory. --ByReasonofUse
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I just started my Sophmore year of highschool. From the begining of Freshman year 'til now, I've lost MANY friends for stupid reasons. Mainly because I got into a fight with one girl that I was best friends with and then she got all of her friends to hate me too. Which was about 15 people. How nice right?
Anyway, I have a reputation of being a bitch. Because.. Well, I CAN be. But I'm really not when you get to know me.
I really want to try to change my reputation on being a bitch, I want to show people that I AM a good person and attempt to make new friends. But I really need help on changing my reputation. Any ideas? (link)
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I couldn't help but respond to this question. You opened the door.
A reputation is a hard thing to change because people know how you used to be and/or are. That's why outward change isn't good enough. It's hard to "stick to" an outward only change, especially when people are actively against you. So what can you do? Nothing. You're hopeless.
Just kidding. You do have hope, and it is found in Jesus Christ and Him alone. When you realize that you are a sinner, that God is holy, confess that sin to God and repent (turn from) that sin in faith and trust in Christ alone for salvation, then Christ, through the Holy Spirit, will redeem you and change you from the inside out. Why place faith and trust in Christ? He came to this earth, lived a perfect life, and died on the cross to pay the price for your life. Why put faith in someone who's dead? You don't. Three days after He died, Christ arose from the grave. You know what He does now? He sits on the right hand of the Father and makes intercession (pleads the case of) every person who has placed faith and trust in Him.
So, practically speaking, what does all of this mean? Well, when a person is saved, he becomes a new creature. What you do then is begin to read and study God's word and allow it to change your life. It will take time and a lot of people may call you a hypocrite, but in due time, by God's grace and your faithfulness in growth and change, people will notice. At that point, your reputation matters no more, because you will desire to please God rather than man.
If you have any more questions or want more information, please ask. I'll take all the time you need.
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The advice was fine.. But I don't need to be preached to. I'm having a hard time believing that there is God. But thanks anyway.
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