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Okay, this is gonna be long..but- 2 years ago a met this guy and we became friends turns out..he's MADLY inlove with me! That's all fine and dandy, I don't mind reject people I don't like, but it also turns out this guy is suicidle! Now, please don't say get him help! He's gotta better about cutting himself, and he sees a therapist. But every time a guy asks me out, even the ones I like, I make up a stupid excuse and walk away for fear the 'suicidle guy' will kill himself! He's told me before I'm his reason for living! What do I do? I rate high!

Wow, I am in the EXACT same position myself!
And if you don't want to be with him, you shouldn't have to. And if he respects you as a person, he'll respect that. If he's so in love with you, all he's going to want is for you to be happy... whether it's with him or not. I'm not saying 'GET OUT OF THERE!', because I myself have tried that, and since me and him are so close, it hurt a lot... and it's better to just talk to him about the situation. There's no reason you two can't still be friends. But there is also no reason you can't be happy, and get yourself a boyfriend just because someone else likes you. I've learned that the best thing you can do for this boy is to just be there for him, as a friend. Just help him through this and talk to him whenever he needs to. But you can't be worried about what he will do because of you... (I actually just made my friend promise me that if he cares about me, he'd never kill himself...and he's has never broken a promise to me yet, and I'm 100% positive he won't this time.) Just let him know that if he ever did anything like that, it would kill you... and that if he loves you, he won't want to put you through that type of pain. BUT DON'T LET HIM HOLD YOU BACK.
Best of luck. Hope I helped!

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much...especially for the long answer
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