I have a heart to help people; especially young people. I have a Bachelor's degree in pastoral studies and I can't wait to find a youth pastorate. Right now, I'm trying to pay off my school bill. I am married to a wonderful young lady who completes me. I don't know everything, by far, but I'll make this promise to you. Any advice I can offer will come from the infallible Word of God. What makes me think I can offer anything worthwhile. Well, it's God Who has the answers, but He utilizes His people as instruments. I, by reason of use (Heb.5), am able to help you understand what God says about your problem and how to respond to it. May God bless you and use me for His glory. --ByReasonofUse
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Okay, I'm sorry, but this is going to be REALLY long.
I was at summer camp last week, and i went with a bunch of my friends. We were having oodles of fun, and there was this guy there that i have liked for EVER! He lives near me and i see him alot, but he has never acted interested in me before. Now, at camp on...Tuesday, during the night game he sat next to me (on a loveseat) and started to poke my knee. So i poked him back. then he took his elbow and dug it into my hip so i jabbed him really hard in his side....it was kinda funny. Then he took his hand and kept putting it on my knee. I wasn't comfortable with that so i kept pushing it off but he wouldn't stop. Then on Wednesday he asked me to play tetherball with him, i so won. then we played pingpong, and i definitly lost. Then on Thursday it got REALLY weird. First I was in crafts and he was in pingpong. Those two games are in the same room. He lost in pingpong so he was sitting down. He called me over and told me too sit on his lap. I did not!!! Then I sat next to him in the chair next to him. He asked for my hand and i said "why" he said he wanted to see somthing. So i held out my hand. Then he just started holding onto my hand and stuff. I was really uncomfortable with this. After that my team and his team were assigned to go to the pool togeather. So while we were at the pool i did NOT want to go swimming. He kept splashing me and trying to push me in, and i was in my cloths! Then i got sick of it so i just jumped into the pool, cloths and all, and dunked him. Okay. He kept holding my hand all day and stuff and on friday, I was really uncomfortable with it. Then on friday everyone in camp catchs him making out with this girl!!!! Now i dont know what to think!!! I dont want to yell at him or anything, cause he is going through alot of problems and he has always been able to talk to me about them and no-one else. So i dont want him to think he cant. what should i do!!!!???? (link)
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First of all, two thumbs up for your parents for training you to feel uncomfortable in such situations. If you feel uncomfortable, you have an obligation to let him know. If he continues, he doesn't need to be a close companion. Let him know that he doesn't have a right to touch you without your permission. And might I add, don't give him your permission. Second of all, the fact that he was caught "making out" with another girl shows you that he is making poor decisions and isn't mature enough to control his emotions and/or hormones. You need to give him a lot of space. Next, you need to realize that you have no right to yell at him. You are not his authority. But as a friend, you maybe should confront him. Let him know that he doesn't need to act that way, especially if he's showing an interest in another girl. But remember, when you confront him, don't make excuses for him. He makes choices about how he responds to his problems. Tell him to talk to his youth pastor or senior pastor, or to his parents. This is something he needs to work out with an older male who can hold him accountable. Don't get me wrong. You can hold him accountable too, but if both of you show a physical attraction to the other, it is never a good idea for the two of you to be alone if the temptation is too great to resist. Be there for him to talk to, but please use caution. If you need further explanation or help, please feel free to ask.
--ByReasonofUse
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