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well there's this guy i like..and we've dated before and we always seem to fight now but we're the best of friends..well today we got in a big fight..and i told him i didn't want to hang out with him again this summer (we don't live in the same town) and he's like w/e and he got all mad at me..later i told him i was sorry and i still want to hang out with him and he's like yeah right and than i got an e-mail from him and it was this chain that he sent to me and it said that like he will always be there for me and everything and how i'm a great friend..but later he sent me a message when i wasn't there and it said i hate you (one time i was talking about someone hating me and he said "who could hate you"). so it kills me to know that he hates me. and he pretty much said that he could never hate me. i have no idea what happened..cause we always kid about that stuff be he didn't say he was kidding or anything..i'm soo worried about our friendship now..and i didn't even do anything..i love this kid right to death and i would do anything for him..i never knew how much the words "i hate you" could feel until you hear it from the one person you would do anything in this world for..even give up your life for them to keep living. it hurt me so bad..and i just want to tell him but i don't know if i can even express to him how much it hurt me. please help me..i just want to know what to say to him..i know it's really what i feel i should say but i need some help. i rate high! please help me! i'm stuck in the gutter on this one. =/ (link)
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Sounds like your having a tough time. I'm having the same trouble but just with my best friend. So i totally understand!!! Sometimes fighting in a relationship can bring you and your friend closer and stronger. But in your case it sounds like it's hurting both of y'all!!! About your fight,i would recommend trying to be patient with the guy first. It sounds like you really love him and love requires patience. Sometimes you cant afford to get mad at a friend..lol. In a way, i think you should seriously talk with him and TELL him how much it hurt you to hear him say those awful words. Sometimes in the heat of a moment, people dont think of what they're saying. If i were you, i would let him cool off for a couple of days and try talking to him again. He would respond better after a few days to think and you would be more willing to listen and forgive. And dont take the I Hate You to heart just yet. Maybe he's going through some harsh times and just can't get his thoughts straight. And if he apologizes, forgive him right then!!! because that's the best way to renew a friendship. Best friends love each other unconditionally which sounds like you two. Dont' give up on him but dont rush things!!! Take them as they come and be patient!!!
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