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Hey! I'm OhSoFamous, and I'm from eastern Canada. I am currently a student but I also ride horses. I currently have my top mount, Cody, in jumper training. Then there is my second mount, Soulie, who shows western pleasure. And last but not least we have Misty, who is in a lease agreement. I love to compete with these horses, and my favorite part of shows is the barrel racing. Actually, my favorite part of shows is the barrel racers! Haha!

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Okay, so I'm engaged.
I have a friend with whom I used to be extremely close. I found out, though, after I started dating this guy, that she'd had a crush on him for quite a while.
Just so there are no misconceptions, I'm going to emphasize that I didn't know she liked him before I started dating him. If I had known, I wouldn't have gone out with him.
I was talking to my fiance - he's friends with her too. From what he told me, I think she still likes him. She doesn't know we're engaged. He started to tell her on line, but she signed off before he could and hasn't spoken to him since.
She's going to find out at some point, but I'd like to tell her in a way that won't...hurt her too much, I suppose.
Is there a way to tell her without going "oh by the way we're engaged" so heartlessly?
The thing is, I could say that, but she'd never admit to me that she still has feelings for him because she wouldn't want me to feel bad.
Any suggestions?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down.
Thanks in advance :)

Hola!

Okay, like mentioned before, you need to tell her. What if she happens to be out grocery shopping one day and someone who does know comes up to her "Oh, did you hear about 'Mark' and 'Stacy'! Such a lovely couple, and now they're engaged!". Let me tell you, if there was ever a better time to fall into a black hole at the supermarket, somebody better tell me. If she's your friend, she would probably feel betrayed that other people knew before you evened slightly mentioned it to her. I think you should take her to a little coffee shop, sit down, make casual conversation, and after a little while just say 'Hey, there's something I need to tell you. I hope you won't be hurt by this, but you need to realize So-And-So and I need to be together. That's why I'm coming right out and telling you this: we're engaged. I hope you'll be supportive of our marriage, and I hope I haven't hurt you.'
If that doesn't work, perhaps you would be better off in the long run without this friend.

Sounds like a perdicament,
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