Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
Gender: Male
Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma
Occupation: College student at Oklahoma State
Age: 19
AIM: IronChefRogue1
Member Since: April 5, 2005
Answers: 32
Last Update: July 5, 2007
Visitors: 7115
Main Categories:
Love Life
Families
Friendship
View All
Favorite Columnists
FrEe2bMe
|
| |
|
ok i have a friend and i recently found out that hes gay i was really suprised at first but things got better and we talked more but now hes just been so bitchy lately everyone thinks im dating him bc hes not open yet and i think that may be one of the reason for my failed attempts at relationships hes a really good person at heart and i know that but lately i dunno hes been so moody almost like a girl you know? i just cant stand it hes getting on my last nerve! what can i do to get him to be the person i used to know even after i found out he was gay??? sorry this is so long! (link)
|
I agree with zealous. With people who have not yet come out of the closet, the stress levels run much higher than non-gay people and people who have come out of the closet. They wonder what people will think of them, which friends will stay, which friends will leave, the reaction their parents will have, ect. With him becoming so moody, the most likely culprit is stress build-up. Depending on how long he has been in the closet, it may be very difficult to give up that shelter of "normality." There are many cases of people in their 40's, 50's, 60's, and even 70's, men who have been happily married to women for years, of finally coming out of the closet. Remind your friend that you will be there for him, no matter what. There is not a big chance that you can restore him to the person you once knew, because that person was a shell created to hide a much deeper secret. You may have to accept that your friend has changed, and realize that he is still the same person that you have been friends with all along. People do change, it is the glorious circle of life. Once your friend steps out of his closet, his stress level will most likely decrease again, bring him back closer to the person you thought you knew. The biggest thing you can do for him is be supportive of him. Don't try to change him, because you will fail at that. Don't try to force him to come out just to get him back closer to normal, you may end up forcing him away. And most importantly of all, don't treat him differently. People of homosexual tendancies are just as human as people who are of heterosexual tendancies. They enjoy most of the same things, do most of the same things, and live their lives the same as most people do. Embrace your friend's change, and you may realize that he is still the same person you knew, now you just know a bit more. Good luck to you and your friend. Everyone should willing embrace change, it is what keeps life interesting.
Best Wishes, Jordan
|
|
Rating: 4
| |
we talk alot i dont miss talking to him i just cant get him to shut up its not that i want him to come out i just want him to get what im going through
|
|