Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
Gender: Male
Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma
Occupation: College student at Oklahoma State
Age: 19
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ive been talking to this guy for 5 yrs. but weve never been together and he lives in flordia right now. Well he just asked me to marry him,i really love him....but i don't want to get married, ive never wanted to get married. I don't know what to say.
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-twiSTed (link)
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Ok, so you two have never been together, yet he still asks you to marry him? Thats a new one by me, usually, if I were gonna propose, I would have wanted to be officially be with that person, not just talk to him. If you know you love him, that should be your first step, be with him, as a girlfriend. As far as distance in relationships goes, distance can be overcome. Thats why we have those things called cars and airplanes. As for not want to get married, that can be a major psychological issue. It could be that you dont want to be tied down, that you have never seen yourself as a wife, or even a mother someday, or it could be an issue from earlier in life. Seeing as I am not studying psychology, I won't delve any farther than that. Here is what I would do, tell him that you do love him, that you want to be with him, but you dont want to be engaged first. Make it clear that you want to "date" first, then, maybe in a year or two, you can make an educated decision as to whether you are honestly not comfortable with the idea of marriage, or if you are just scared. Good luck, no matter what happens.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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Rating: 5
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thank you very much! best answer so far.
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