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I'm bisexual and I have a boyfriend, so questions about coming out or dating are fine by me. I live with both parents and my younger brother and sister so i know quite a lot about family dynamics.

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Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
So...how do I go about bringing this up?

If you are in a relationship that you don't feel comfortable talking about things as important as your engagemnent then you should not be getting married! :-)

If you do want to bring it up then don't be too direct or confrontational about it. Bring the conversation around to the future and mention what it would be like to get married and lead on from there.

You are technically still engaged seeing as you never broke up, just in case you are wondering but it might notr be the best thing for you. You can be in a loving and committed relationship without marriage which is just a bit of paper when you think about it. You could try suggesting that you put the pair of you on a sound financial and legal footing- unromantic but sensible and a sign of commoittment.

I'm sorry if this seems a bit negative and I hope the two of you will be very happy.

*Girlwithamansname

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(Rating: 5) I think you got the wrong idea...we talk about everything, especially this stuff. I just haven't brought it up and I don't want him to think I'm rushing into things when I'm not. Thanks for the advice, though. =)
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