I really like it when people ask me for advice, but unfortunatly most of my friends are gone this summer and don't have time to talk to me. And they hardly ever ask me for advice anyway. I need to find less secure friends. Lol. Besides, my summer may get a bit boring. I'm open to any questions, specializing in school work, photography and being a teen. And even if I don't have an answer, it's nice to know someone is as confused as you are.
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ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?! (link)
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First off, congrats on being trustworthy. That's a great quality in friends and something everyone looks for. You'll go far socially.
However, sometimes it's just too much. If people keep coming to you, calmy tell them that you have a lot on your mind and as much as you'd like to help, their problems might add some un-needed stress. Suggest a diary. If they want input, suggest www.opendiary.com, where they can get input and advice as well as give it.
If your friends do have a huge problem, like, "I've been d," don't just sit there! This is a situation where you have to tell! Don't betray their trust right away, though. Tell them that they need to tell an right away. What happens if they get pregnant? If they still don't tell, call their parents. Explain that your friend asked you to keep it secret, but that you're worried. Your friend may be really angry at you for a while, but someday they'll be greatful.
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