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Q: I was with my girlfriend for 2 years when she got pregnant. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but we decided that we would deal with it. The first week that she brought that baby home things were good. We got a little apartment and I was working full time during the day and she would work a couple hours at night just until I could support us with only my job. Well one day I got home from work and she was gone. She left a note saying that she wasn't ready for a child and that she's leaving our daughter with me. It's been a week since then. I've been doing the best I can but I don't know the first thing about being a parent and I have no one to ask about it. I grew up in foster homes my whole life. I love my little girl to death but I just don't know what to do anymore. She doesn't stop crying. I've tried feeding her, changing her, rocking her, everything that I can think and she keeps crying. I brought her to the doctor and he said that there is nothing physically wrong wtih her. I don't know what to do. If anyone has idea of what could be causing this please let me know. I would also appreciate it if any one knows anything about taking care of a 3 week old baby. Please help me.

Jack

Jack, I'd be happy to help you out. It sounds like your little girl could have colic, which would make her cranky at night. Sometimes taking her for a car ride or running the vacuum cleaner can calm colicky babies, otherwise I am sure there are a million people who could give helpful advice if you do a search online. You don't need to be raised by a family to take care of a baby, so don't feel like you are an inadequate father. If you have any instant messengers, please feel free to add me and I'd be more then happy to talk to you.