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Hey all, I'm 16 (wow does it feel weird writing that!) and I feel I can help people if they need advice, especially in the mental health areas since I've had some experience in matters such as that. Don't be afraid to ask! I will try my best to help you.

I live in the UK- England to be more precise. I love shopping, swimming- anything that is fun really. I am a bubbly person (nominated most bubbly on the year book!) although I can also be quite. I'm generally caring and kind- not to sound bigheaded!

Anyway I think thats enough information,

Take care all xxx

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Ok, I have a serious problem. I have become very suicidal because of depression, and other things that I don't want to say. I called my boyfriend one night, telling him I wanted to kill myself, he called my parents and told them. My mom was too busy with her boyfriend, so she just said, "I'll just call her dad and have him check up on her." My dad came over and just brought me food, it was very nice of him, but he didn't know what to do, I am seeing a therapist. But I know that if I told her that I felt as if I were going to attempt this, she'd get me in a hospital. So, here are my questions.

How can I get my parents to take my very depressed feelings of dying seriously?


[I tried telling my mom, my exact words were, "I seriously want to die, everyone thinks its just a phase, but I seriouly want to be dead."] I got nothing out of this. I feel like my mom could care less. And as for my dad, he thinks I'm being ridiculous, and so does my sisters.

When you are in a hospital/mental institution, what exactly happens?

I fear that I will be trapped in there screaming with everyone ignoring me. So, if anyone could tell me as much as they can please, details.


This would really help me, thank you

Okay as someone who feels like you do, I may be able to help.

Firstly parents.. I would advise you work on one for the moment. If possible search somewhere such as google for suicide and parents and a site should come up with information for parents about how to help their teens. This could be benificial for your Mum/Dad or both- maybe show it to them? It could explain things. I'm not sure what other advice I could offer you- you could write a letter to them explaining how you feel since it would give you more time to think about what you want to say without any interuptions.

I've never been to a hospital or institution although I used to want to go there but when I spoke to my counseller or physchologist about how I wanted to die no one really did anything. If you live in the states I understand things may be different. It does seem that if a hospital is the option they give you it is something you are willing to try?

You will not be trapped in there screaming- it is much like a boarding school to some extent if you are a night patient as well. You will probably have group therapy, opertunities to speak to many people and work through what is going on. There will probably be time for school work too, from what I can gather. I also feel there would some kind of 'enjoyable' activities. It will not be like all the horror stories you have heard. People there will be trying to help you. For many people it does work. It may also be a chance to get medication if you want that and don't have it already? Telling your therapist could also lead to medication if you asked.

I feel for you- I hope that everything works out. Take care xxxx

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(Rating: 5) thank you. I wanted to try the hospital, because I just think, "how much worse can it be?" but, I just feel scared at the same time.


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