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My friend, lets call her L, is a pretty good friend most of the time. But if I get a good grade or a good grade point average that is better than hers, even if hers is good too, she takes it out on me and ignores me for the rest of the day. She did it once in the morning, and in the afternoon!!! Now she is mad at me!!!!!! What should I do, I'll rate EVERYONE who is not rude!!!!
~Amanda
PS: I've asked you for advice b4 and it was awesome, so please help!!!!!! (link)
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Hi Amanda! I had this problem once before, too. More than likely, your friend is just really insecure, and when you do better than she does, it only makes her feel worse, so she takes it out on you. What she is doing is unfair, because it is not your fault at all, and it is not like you are getting good grades with the sole purpose of making her feel inferior. This is what I would suggest...try to avoid telling her what grade you got. When you get papers passed back in class, or whatever, quickly put yours away, and be vague about your score. Something like, 'Oh, I did ok...' will work just fine. Don't be blatantly secretive, but just be vague. That way, she doesn't have a chance to compare her grade to yours. If she insists upon knowing, or still compares herself to you and gets mad, try having an honest talk with her. If she is usually is a good friend, hopefully she will understand. Talk to her when you are away from school, and when she is not mad at you. Maybe say something like, 'You know, lately I've been noticing that you get mad at me if I get a better grade than you, and you really mean alot to me as a friend, and it makes me sad when you're upset with me. What's wrong? You get good grades too, I really don't see why you get mad... is there anything you want to talk about or tell me?' Another good thing to tell her is how much you value your friendship, and you don't want anything to get in the way of you two being friends. Explain this to her simply, and nicely, and hopefully she'll open up about what's bothering her. Maybe she's having problems at home and is taking it out on the wrong thing. Anyways, whatever you do, don't slack off on getting good grades just to keep her from getting mad. It's not worth it. Keep getting your good grades, and with time your friend will come around. Good luck, I hope this helped a little bit. Keep me updated!
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THANX SO MUCH U R THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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