My favourite things in the world are chocolate, ice cream, stilettoes i can't walk in, the blow torch my dad can't hide, my phone that i cant use, the drums that I can't play, and my BED!
I love chatting to people on msn, poking people, and watching stupid and mildly offensive flash animations on the internet.
I also really like playing my music at ridiculous volumes and going to concerts - so far I have seen: Green day, Blink 182, Evanescence and Delirious?.
Gender: Female
Location: England
Age: 14
Member Since: March 29, 2005
Answers: 15
Last Update: February 14, 2012
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Hi everyone, I'm 14/f and I was j/w if it would be bad if I eventually went out with a 19 year old guy. I'm going to be 15 in May. I've been talking to this guy for a year now. He seems really really sweet, but we haven't met yet. I just feel like I'm starting to like him now. We were going to go see a movie one time, but we didn't end up going because it was really late. I decided not to go. He always used to say I'm too young and everything, so he was afraid to meet me, but then all of a sudden that one time he was going to go somewhere with me. He doesn't seem to care about my age all that much now. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, but I'm just saying if we met and everything, would it be wrong for me to be going out with a 19 year old? In my opinion, it's not that bad. I know we could both get in trouble, but he's really sweet. I've talked to a lot of people that I don't know on the internet, and he doesn't seem like one of those guys that only cares about sex. He never tries to talk about it with me like other gross guys do. I was also wondering how I could maybe hint to him when I'm talking to him on the internet again that I like him. I'll probably be talking to him tomorrow night. If we ever met also, what are some suggestions as to where we could meet and hang out since it'll be the first time. If anyone can, please answer! I just want a few suggestions. I'm soo very sorry that this question is so long. And I also know that you'll probably tell me it's a big age difference, but age shouldn't matter if you really like someone right? You could always keep the relationship a secret, and not do anything illegal with that person until your old enough and you know you won't get in trouble. If your nice when you answer, and you give good advice I'll rate you a 5!!!! Thank you so much again, and sorry about the length. :-) (link)
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OK, well this is kinda tricky.
I mean, do you have any way of knowing for certain if this guy is who he says he is? Its dangerous to meet up with someone you don't know from over the internet.
If you are very certain that he is who he says he is, and he isnt dangerous, and you would definitely, no doubts about it, want to meet him, then you should always make sure someone knows where you are. Bring someone with you. Meet in broad daylight in a public place. Don't go anywhere secluded.
This may sound paranoid but it could save your life if the worst comes to the worst.
Secondly, about the relationship thing - I really do think you should get to know this person as a friend. I know you have done online, but if you are gong to meet this person meet them as a FRIEND first.
If it feels right, remember that it is illegal for him to have sex with you. Older guys may want to do more in a relationship, so don't do anything if you feel pressured.
And definitely don't keep the relationship a secret. Bad things have a tendency to happen in those circumstances.
I hope I helped and didn't sound too preachy!
Vic
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Rating: 5
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Thank you so much! You gave really good advice, and you were really nice! :-)
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