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you seem to be really good at answering questions.. so maybe you can help me. im almost 14(f) and ive never had a REAL boyfriend. the most i ever did with a guy was like hold hands. all of my friends have had boyfriends and have made out with guys or gone further.. i had alot of chances to do that with guys but ive turned them all down because i thought i didnt like them.. but maybe im being too uptight and nervous about getting that close to a guy.. theres only 1 guy who i want to go out with but he has no interest in going out with me and he has a gf.. and for some reason hes all ive been thinking about for almost 3 years. he liked me 2 years ago now were just friends.. i need to move on from him.. all i want is a guy to be with and cuddle with.. am i just too uptight or is this guy the only person im gonna love? (link)
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Hey. First of all, it's absolutely fine that you haven't had a 'real' boyfriend yet. I actually think that's great. Alot of girls skip around from one boyfriend to the next, and that's only because they are insecure and don't know how to manage on their own. I am glad you aren't like them. Don't ever feel bad about not making out with a guy... this is how I feel, anyways: If you don't like them, why make out with them?? It's pointless. Wait until someone comes along that you really like, and who likes you back and isn't just using you. That's not being uptight, that's being smart and waiting until its the right time and right guy. If you are nervous, thats okay too. It may not seem like it, but guys are just as nervous as we girls are. So when you do find the right guy, and you go to kiss him, don't worry about if you are doing it right, or if you are a good kisser. If your heart is in it, than it will be good. All the girls who go around kissing any boy that breathes don't put their heart into it. Those kisses are passion-less, and empty. So it really is best to wait, I promise you won't regret it.
About this guy you like... the only reason you can't get over him is because you haven't found someone you really like yet. I had this same problem. I was so caught up with this one guy, he was all I could think about. He lived far away, and finally I got over him because I found someone I truly liked. This is what I think happens... When you don't have someone you like alot, you revert back to an old crush, or you end up not letting go of a crush, usually one that is unattainable, like in both of our cases. But trust me, soon there will be a guy who will totally sweep you off your feet and make you wonder what on earth your saw in that other guy. That's what happened to me anyways. The guy you can't get over right now is just a temporary obsession that will be over when you meet someone new. Don't worry, he definately will not be the last or only guy you will love! Good luck, hope this helped a little. If you need any more help, you know where to come!
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thanks so much.. that made me feel alot better
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