Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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People are always asking me about my love life, like people at school. I have had a boyfriend before but that only lasted a week, and I always feel uncomfortable saying 'oh I've only had one boyfriend' when people ask. I know it's not a race or a competition as to who can get the most boyfriends, but it's starting to bug me and I don't want to lie and say I've had loads of boyfriends. The thing is, I'm just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship, and I want any relationship I have to be a long one, so I'm obviously gonna have less boyfriends than everyone else. I don't mind that, I just mind being embarrased when I say 'one'. How can I avoid these conversations, or what should I say when they come up? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with having had just one boyfriend. I'm 19 and I've had only one (we're still together, thought). Let me tell you a little, true story:
When I was in high school, all of my friends had had many boyfriends. Only one besides myself was a virgin at the time. I had never had a boyfriend until my junior year. It had bothered me that I had never had one, not because of what other people thought but because I was lonely. Shortly after my boyfriend and I started going out, these friends began pressuring us to have sex. It was very bizarre to have my friends and not my boyfriend to pressure me to have sex. I realized that they were doing so to make themselves feel better about having had sex with many guys after a few months.
Since so many people ask you about your love life, chances are that quite a few of them ask you to feel better about themselves, as though they have achieved more. I suggest you seek out others who share the same mindset and a similar past as you and make friends with them. Prodding questions are easier to bear when you're in similar company.
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