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Ok, this might be kind of long but here goes...I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and we are really getting on eachothers nerves, we fight over little things a lot and its getting old. He's always by my side and following me, hes really clingingy and hes just getting annoying. Don't get me wrong, he is the best boyfriend I have ever had--literally--and the longest relationship, but I just want to be friends right now. I don't want any boyfriend at all, but I have issues with breaking up with people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings I hate makeing people feel bad or cry, and I need some ideas as to how I could break up with him, but let him know I still love him, we still have a very big chance, I just need a break and want to be friends for awhile?
I rate high to answers that don't offend or piss me off.
Thanks for you help. (link)
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Well, I'll try not to offend you or piss you off. :-P
I can understand how you don't want to hurt his feelings; I feel the same way. I hate being viewed as a bad guy to the people I care about.
It really does seem like your boyfriend really likes you, which makes it harder. However, does he know what he's doing is annoying you? Maybe you might want to suggest he stop being so clingy for a while.
I'm wondering if you actually want to break up with him, because it sounds like you might just need space from this one guy. Maybe you can just say be completely honest with him. I've found it easiest to break up if you don't do it totally out of the blue and you give the person what they need after the relationship (ie: their space).
Maybe you could start a discussion with him about how you need your space right now and you don't feel like at this stage of your life you don't need a boyfriend. However, you still love and value your friendship with him, so would he consider just being friends for a few months?
Just try to compliment him while you break up with him. Say however, not but. It's a stupid grammar technique I picked up studying communication. It sounds a lot less hurtful you you say however instead of but. Don't ask me why.
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Thanks so much. I do love him and don't really want to break up with him, i just need space like you said. He actaully wrote me about it and told me how he hates that we fight so much lately. thanks again that helps so much, I like your way of how I should tell him, you know this part: "Maybe you could start a discussion with him about how you need your space right now and you don't feel like at this stage of your life you don't need a boyfriend. However, you still love and value your friendship with him, so would he consider just being friends for a few months?" that took a lot of weight off my shoulders. Thanks,yet again! Your my hero lol!
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