I have a degree in Biomedical Engineering and Psychology from Northwestern University. I finished medical school and completed my M.D. at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine. I am currently in my residency for surgery- hopefully to be specializing in neurosurgery.
I want to answer questions on medical type questions. I'm a big fan of Dr. Drew Pinsky on Love Line and would like to help younger people from the mistakes I see a lot of young people do when they come into my ER.
Gender: Male
Location: I'm from all over.
Occupation: Physician- Surgeon
Age: 29
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I just broke up with my boy friend and I feel miserable. I feel as if the world i going to end. I thought he was the one you knkow? But he did the same thing to me just like the others. No relationship has gone good for me. Every one was a jerk and used me, or just wanted to sleep with me. I don't think that I can get over this and feel as if the only way to stop the pain i to go in eternal sleep six feet under. Please someone help. And don't tell me to get over it b/c I've tried that to many and I'm afraid that's not going to work in this case. Please will someone HELP???!!!!! (link)
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Sweetheart,
Falling in love with someone is always the most personal thing that we can ever do. You open yourself up not just physically but emotionally. The wall that many of us have around our hearts- that we use to protect ourselves, we have to tear down when we fall in love. WHat is tragic though is that with every subsequent love we make that wall taller and stronger, so it takes more for that next person to tear it down- but it ends up hurting more.
You may just give too much of your heart and self into all your relationships. I don't know what type of guys you really go out with, but you may want to see if you fall for the same type of guy and then try to date someone different from that. Hurting youself is not the way to go, because you are not at fault for giving your heart into the relationship. If the guys don't see that you are a wonderful person and that you are into them for more than just physical reasons, then you have reached an age of maturity that they haven't yet. It has been shown that women mature much quicker than men do (some say that men never mature).
You are young and with every relationship you know what more you want in the next guy. Hold out for that one guy who will not only accept your heart but will protect with every ounce of his soul. Do guys like that exist? Yes, they do, you just have to find them, which is part of this process that we all go to. There is a one for us all, I believe, and we will end up with them eventually. Don't fall too quickly, be protective of your heart, and when it is seen by you that he gives you as much of his heart as you do, then as two souls in one- discover how love really can be.
I know that this is a long statement without a conclusive answer, but I'm just hoping that you can see that there is someone there out there and they will come in your life, and hurting yourself like that is not the way- because there is a guy out there who's looking for you, and if you're gone, there would be nothing more tragic than that.
Yours,
Arun
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that was great thanx for the advice
always
Nat
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