I have a degree in Biomedical Engineering and Psychology from Northwestern University. I finished medical school and completed my M.D. at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine. I am currently in my residency for surgery- hopefully to be specializing in neurosurgery.
I want to answer questions on medical type questions. I'm a big fan of Dr. Drew Pinsky on Love Line and would like to help younger people from the mistakes I see a lot of young people do when they come into my ER.
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Age: 29
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After you spent 3 years engaged to the man you thought was the man of your dreams and you have troubles that make the relationship end, how long does it take for the tears to stop? When do you start over. 37 yrs 2 chilren
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I'm really sorry that you had to go through all of that. I also feel for your children because I"m sure that htey had become quite attached to him too. When do the tears stop? I think that some people think that when you're older you're able to wipe things off faster and move on, but we know that isn't true.
The tears will stop eventually because eventually there will be new joys in your life, whether it is another man who will love you and your kids as much as you love him, the day your kids graduate from school, or when they get married or have kids. The tears will be replaced eventually once the shadows of the gray skies in your eyes are replaced by the sun of the joy in other areas of your life.
Don't lose faith though. You'll know when you're ready to start over again with dating. You may have been engaged to him but how much more tragic would it have been if it happened after you had gotten married? Kiss your children, thank god that they are healthy and you're healthy, and tomorrow start new and fresh with the dreams of the future to light your way. However, if you must cry- cry, it makes us all feel better and tears always stop eventually.
Yours,
Arun
"Be comforted and don't be lonely. The sun shines on you by day, and the moon and the stars reflect their light on you by night; thus you areloved by those around you, with an unceasing, bright love. Hold this love in your hopes and remember it in your prayers." - Joanne Domenech.
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You are one of the only people responding that mentioned sorrow for my children. Unfortunatley at 37 you begin to think of dating the next time around more like, "forget it, it isn't worth it and it isn't worth the possibility of putting myself through this again, with kids at stake," Yea, I am glad the divorce wasn't there, that would have been worse, but 3 years of memories, pictures, what the hell do you do with those? I love my kids more than anything, so I will wait for the coming years and look forward to their accomplishments. I just wished one person could have said, 2 days, then they would have been gone a long time ago. There is more to life than just a companion, as you stated, kiss my kids, they are healthy. I know all this, I do all this, I say all this, I pray to replace all the sadness with happiness, and each day comes another day of tears, while I sit down and wonder if I even mattered. That is where I think most women's tears come frome when it is all over, did you matter? Did I matter?
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