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I've had a lot of different types of experiences in my life. I'm here to help any way that I can. Please don't hesitate to ask me any questions you might have. I think it's important for people to know they can rely on each other for help and support. I want to be that person for you.
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about a month ago, i asked how to tell my best guy friend of 7 years Fredo that his evil blood-sucking cant-wait-till-the-full-moon vampiress of a girlfriend Lupitalili was going to dump him. the advice was great and it all went well, but now i have a new dilemma: i just recently realized that i have the HUGEST crush on him! what he hell do i do? this is a different kind of crush because we're really good friends...JUST really good friends (who by the way established that with each other and everyone else a couple of years ago). if i tell him, he wont totally freak out like maybe other guys, but things will defenitly be different, and i cant risk our friendship. telling other guys i like them is one thing, BUT THERE'S A TRUE FRIENDSHIP AT STAKE! I cant just hide my feelings for him either, because, like i said, this crush is just...different somehow. what do i do? there's also a whole bunch of girls who are like in love with him.i always thought of him as a brother who i couldnt love anymore even if he really was MY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD. having a crush on him changed a lot of things going on in my mind and will change a lot more on everyone else's. what do i do?
Dear Crush,
Aaww crushes are great arent they? But are you crushing temporarily or is this something serious? Because youre right there is a true friendship at stake. You dont want to make a move on a crush that will just fade away when the next boy comes along. Keep this in mind.
Also, if you find that this is something real.. a true feeling you have for him.. then do it. Tell him. It's best you let it out then never know what could have happened between you two. It's better to know even if you do end up being rejected in the end.
But let me stress... be sure of your feelings. You are absolutely right, whether he feels the same about you or not.. you will be seriously changing this friendship if you announce your feelings to him. Be careful.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
(Rating: 4) thanx but i wish some one would give me a fool-proof plan on exactly what to do...dont we all! anyway thanx for covering every possibility of what might happen.keep it up!