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IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life. (link)
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Wow, well right about now, I'd give up on your brother. But about your mom. I think it would be a good idea to have a serious heart-to-heart talk to your mom about all of this and how it has made you feel. You need to let her know that you need her to be home and be with you and show you the love you need. If she wants to be a good mother, she needs to be around enough time to be. She shouldn't have left you to go to her boyfriends but that's over and done with now. Losing your virginity because of the feeling of not feeling loved is another sad consequence of how your mother acts.
I think it would be a good idea to talk to your friend and her mother and your mother about the situation and tell your mother that you want to stay with your friend for a while(if that's what you want to do). Just make it clear that you need to have whats best for you right now. I'm sure that she does care about what's best for you deep down. Before anything though, I'd try talking to her about it and see if you can get the whole situation straightened out. And make sure she's actually listening to you and not letting it go through one ear and out the other. That never helps anything. But if that doesn't work, I think you should stay with your friend and her mom for a while. I really I hope I helped you out. Best of luck!!
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