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so im 20yrs old and i just had a son with a 18 yr old. hes been doing really good with coming over (we both live with our parents) anyways, the problem is that once in awhile he'll say hes coming over and then doesn't even show up or call to say what's going on...i dont understand a little bit because i had talked to him about it and he agreed that calling would be the best thing and he also agreed that he should be calling when plans change, yet somehow he still seems to do it>>he'll tell me the night before that he's coming over and then just not show and not call me until the next day and talk as though nothings up...its bugging me so much i tried talking to him now what do i do??? (link)
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The problem is that your boyfriend is still a teenager and therefore more immature than you. Are any of his friends fathers? It may be that he is trying to live a normal life and perhaps trying not to think about the fact he is a father. Could any of his friends be making him go out with them instead of coming round to see you and the baby? You have to be careful and not talk to him as if you're trying to make him choose between his friends and his baby. You should be quite stubborn and, if he says he is coming round and doesn't then next time he says he is coming round say you are going out or something. He shouldn't just be able to turn up whenever he wants. You should arrange a specific day or time when he can come over and if he abuses that by not turning up then the next time he is supposed to come over, go out with the baby so you are giving him a taste of his own medicine. I know two wrongs don't make a right but you need to let him know that it takes two to be parents and he cannot have his way all the time. Daisy
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