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Q: I HAVE A FRIEND WITH BULIMIA, I JUST FOUND OUT
AND I TALKED WITH HER ABOUT IT. SHE SAID SHE WOULD STOP BUT IM NOT SHURE THAT SHE WILL.

MY QUESTION IS FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE HAD ANOREXIA OR BULIMIA: IS THERE ANYTHING THAT ANYBODY COULD HAVE SAID? OR DONE ANYTHING TO MAKE YOU STOP DOING IT, ANYTHING AT ALL? WHAT CAN I TELL HER ABOUT IT TO MAKE HER STOP?

SHE IS SO BEATUYFULL AND I CANT JUST SIT BACK AND WATCH HER WITHER AWAY AND DIE. I THINK I MAY BE IN LOVE WITH HER AND THIS IS JUST DEVISTATING TO ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO IF SHE DIED :(

HER BULIMIA STEMS FROM HER FIRST BOYFRIEND AND LOVE, HE ABUSED HER PHISICALY AND MENTALY.
HE WOULD TELL HER THAT SHE WAS UGLY AND FAT AND THAT NO ONE ELSE WOULD EVER WANT TO BE WITH HER.

ALSO HER PARANTS WOULD MAKE COMENTS TO HER TO TRY AND MAKE HER LOOSE WEIGHT. THEY WOULD TELL HER THAT SHE HAD A FAT ASS AND THAT SHE SHOULDINT EAT SO MUCH.

BACK IN JANUARY OF 2004 SHE WAS 190 LBS AND ABOUT 5'-5" TALL, NOW SHE IS 140 LBS.

I KEEP TELLING HER SHE LOOKS SOOOO GOOD, BUT SHE SAYS THAT WHEN SHE LOOKS IN THE MIRROR SHE DOES NOT SEE HER SELF LIKE THAT, AND THAT IM ONLY SAYING THAT TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER, AND THAT SHE ONLY SEES HER SELF AS BEING UGLY AND FAT.

IF YOU WENT THROUGH THIS, PLEASE HELP ME SAVE MY FRIEND.

MY E-MAIL IS CHUCK1332@COMCAST.NET

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP
-CHUCK

I am going to tell you right off that I have never gone through an eating disorder.But I am a girl and I do feel the pressure to be thin.I think all girls do.Just today I was sitting by these girls who were talking saying how they are so fat.THEY ARE SIZE ZEROS!Me in my size sevens didn't feel so good.The media fucks with our heads as do mirrors,and the people in our everyday lives.Right now you are being a good friend.You alone aren't going to be able to make her stop though.It's something she will have to control herself.Bulimia kills.Kills very slowly I might add too.Whatever you do though as a friend do NOT lecture her.I had a friend lecture me once in the past about my self mutilation problem.It made me feel so much worse.That's not what I wanted to hear and your friend will not want to hear it either.I wanted to be held and told that everything was going to be okay.Chances are she does too.Her shit of an ex-boyfriend and parents are not helping.Get in touch with a center that deals with eating disorders professionately and confidently that is close to you.That would help her the most right now.She has a disorder and whether or not she believes it she needs help.

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Thank you so much, i will try to do that.

Is there anything that you can think of that i could tell her to maybe scare her into stoping.
like she gets cold realy easy and her cycle comes a week early evry month, i told her that its because her body needs vitamins and minerals and that shes probobly running ot of the ones that control body tempeture and her cycle, I also told her that once she starts running low on potasium
she could start having seazures(witch is all true) but it seemed like when i told her about the sezures, that for the first time she stoped and realy thought about what she was doing.

so is there anything you can think of that if someone had told you taht would make you stop that self mutilation?

and another thing, what would you consider lecturing, cause i have been telling her about all that problems she could have as a result of this and to try and eat something at least once a day and not throw it up, even if its only a couple bites of food, so she doesint feel full, and maybe can control herself enough to keep it down.

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