Hello, my name is Jane Moon.
I have been through some things: rape; sexual harassment; sexual relationships; relationships with both older guys and younger; drinking; recently-gotten-over anorexia; and of course, love and crushes. I also grew up with a lot of guyfriends so I understand why they act the way they do.
I had hard times going through problems, and I wouldnt be able to forgive myself if I let another person go suffer like I did. I want to help you, because you probably dont deserve all these pains happening to you. There is no way to stop them--they are part of life--but I CAN help you go through it without much pain.
I can help eating disorder problems well especially, because i have been there myself, and my friend helped me get over my disorder, so i know how i can help.
You are NOT alone.
Remember,I'm always here to help if you need me.
Feel free to AIM me.
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E-mail: jane-moon@hanmail.net
Gender: Female
Location: South Korea
Occupation: Student, Artist, and Photographer
Age: 15
AIM: Intoxicant Xlove
Member Since: September 29, 2004
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I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.
Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.
I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :( (link)
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Seeing how she refuses to admit her defeat in arguments, she is obviously feeling insecure about herself and lacking in self-esteem.
I know this must be frustrating for you, because she most probably is the person who always has to have the Best of Best and never a single defeat. She is feeling imperfect and left out.
She is simply in that stage where she wants to feel like she belongs, like she is special and people have a reason to care for her.
This will be really hard, but in a state like this it will only make her worse if you should leave her.
It'll be weird, but try to compliment her on small things.. and let her know we are all gifted in some way. Show her how you are imperfect in certain area whereas in another you are perfect. Show her how SHE is imperfect in some areas and perfect in some.
Megan is weak.
It is your job to be there for her...
I truly hope your relationship works out well.:)
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Thank you for trying, but honestly, you just missed the head of the nail. But again, thanks anyway. :) That was actually good advice.
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