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Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think? (link)
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Hey there! You don't mention what, exactly, your boyfriend is saying in his dirty talk. But even though I myself love dirty talk, I can think of a few goofy things a man could say to me in bed that would make me do more laughing than getting aroused. In fact, I'm laughing right now as I think of a few I've heard! So thanks for the evening chuckle.
Talking dirty is actually a great way to create good communication in bed. But not everyone likes to hear their lover throwing porno-type lines at them during a roll in the sack. So try suggesting that he take a different route next time. Tell him you want him to try talking to you in a way that YOU know ahead of time you might find sexy. Suggest he tell you when he likes something you are doing. Example:
Him: I like it when you do it this way.
You: Yeah, how does it feel?
And move on from there.
This bit of conversation probably feels more natural than whatever it is he previously said. You could also try it the other way around:
Him: Do you like that?
You: Yeah, it feels really good.
Him: How does it feel exactly? What else do you want me to do?
Of course, it would be in your own words ... my examples are probably kind of stuffy sounding, but eh, I'm sure you get the point. It also wouldn't hurt to throw in a "You're amazing" or something to that effect, IF that's what you're actually thinking. If he sucks at doing something, don't be afraid to gently suggest he try doing it another way.
So try that, and hopefully that will feel more real to you than his attempts.
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Heh. You seem to know us really well. Lol. I think I'll try some of your suggestions...Thanks! =)
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