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This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.
So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.
Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.
However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.
If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.
I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help? (link)
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well, for those of us who know html, we got the point, now, didn't we? :)
regarding your question, which was - thank god - a very good one, you should not take the job. if this relationship is your highest priority, then money is not, and even if the both of you are poor, you should still be happy - if your love is truly that strong. if it isn't, then so be it, and you can rest easy knowing that you did not compromise your values. that general feeling sounds like your conscience, or perhaps more accurately, your subconscious.
if you are college-educated, there should be a wide variety of jobs available to you, quite possibly even more in scotland.
please, if you want to retain your integrity and your self-respect, DON'T DO IT. yes, i am saying 'please' in my advice. i'm that sure of it.
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Rating: 5
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Well considered, thoughtful, and yes, even kind. Thank you. :)
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