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Q: Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me?
A: Some common reasons this might be happening are: a) because they need a target to make themselves feel better about themselves and to keep their positions of power in the hierarchy of school cliques; or b) there's something about you that they envy, and they want to keep you down so you can't replace them in the eyes of everyone else.
You could talk to your counselor or a trusted teacher about it - sometimes, after they talk to your class about it, it wears off after awhile. If things get really bad to the point that you don't feel comfortable at your school anymore, you could try changing schools. Or, you could try asking one of the people who's teasing you about why they're doing this to you.
Some recommended reading on the subject is Rosalind Wiseman's Queen Bees and Wannabees (which sparked the movie Mean Girls), Odd Girl Out and Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons. Queen Bees and Wannabes is a very good and comprehensive book, and it even includes stratagies for talking to people you have a problem with.
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Great Advice, thank you very much. :-)
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