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A little less then two months ago I found out my cousin was raped and i've been having some trouble dealing with it.I'm really close to this cousin , she's liek my best friend.when i first found out i just started crying , i couldnt even look at anyone for a copuple days.That i had to cry myself to sleep.i used to live in a house with her in when i was younger,i lived on the bottom and she lived on the top.Whenever i think about her and her baby i cant help but cry and its so hard for me to look at her without crying.I cant help but think maybe if i hadnt moved away i would have been with her and i could have stopped the jerk who did this to her.I seem to be the only person in my family who thinks she can finish high school and still take care of her baby.i mean its her family thier supose to be supportive of her.She was raped when she was 14 and had her baby when she was 15.She was born about 3weeks ago.I still cant help but worry about her and feel like i could have done something and i should tell my parents to be more supportive of her and stop thinking so negative.I couldnt even talk to my best friend about this w/o feeling stupid so if anyone has any advice for me, please send it.

Ok first of all, i know you must feel really bad about what happened to your cousin, i mean who wouldnt!Theres probably nothing you could have dont to stop this...everyone feels like they could have always done something but thats not always the case. You dont need to start crying about this everytime you see your cousin! Imagine how she feels, it probably just reminds her about what happened! you need to be there for her, not try to put yourself in her postition! if she needs to talk, listen, be there for her like you said, thats what family is about! I know ppl that have kids at an early age and were still able to overcome obsticles such as school, you have to be there for her and support her! thanks for the question and i wish you all the best! :*:SaRa:*:

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