If you have sex, you're eligible to be pregnant. But only if you're a female,of course.There's no set age to lose your virginity, chances are you'll end up regretting it sooner or later. I don't know if he or she likes you. I can't tell from where I live. If you need to lose some weight, run, excerise and eat right, but you can't lose 30 pounds in a week. Please don't ask me questions like that, I've answered them all in the paragraph you just read. Thank you.
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We are constantly getting into petty arguments, that escalate until he is angry and I am upset, sometimes to the point of tears. He blames me, saying I go on too much about things, and I blame him because I feel he doesn't listen or respond to anything I say, or he belittles me and my point of view. He says I belittle him too. I don't really know where to begin but to explain what happened today. We were going out to lunch with our 5-year-old daughter and as we were leaving, he suggested a fish and chips restauraunt called "Tugboat". At first, I agreed, but after we got in the car I said "I really don't feel like fish and chips. Can we go somewhere that has other choices?" I don't recall if he even responded. So I suggested three fast-food places that have fish and chips and other choices as well. He said "I don't want to eat fast food, " in this very hostile tone of voice like I was stupid for suggesting it. I went on to explain that there are heathly things he could get there too, like salad, and that the place he wanted to go was fast food and not healthy anyway. He did not acknowlege my valid point and continued to make negative remarks. He said that he didn't want to eat salad. I said ok then, but they have fish and chips, which is what you said you wanted." Then he got more angry and denied that he said he wanted that. I pointed out that the restaurant he wanted to go to only served that and little else. I explained again that I was just trying to be fair and pick a place we would all be happy with. He just told me to shut up and that he wanted to go home. I couldn't figure out what he was so upset about. Maybe I overexplained my point of view, but I was getting no response from him. At one point, he drove to one of the fast-food places I suggested and said in a very nasty tone "Here is the place you wanted to go. Are you happy now?" No, I wasn't, because I didn't like his attitude, and I said "If you don't want to eat here, just tell me where you'd like to go?" He refused to answer, so I angrily got out of the car and started to walk away, telling him he was being a jerk. I ended up getting back in the car and he told me I was a psycho. I said I wouldn't be acting like this if he didn't treat me like my ideas were stupid, and refuse to tell me where he wanted to go. We then went through the drive-thru of another restaurant, three times, and he kept getting out of the line because I was upset and wanted to talk to him about how I felt. Our daughter was really hungry, as was I, and was getting really upset. Finally, we ended up at a nice restaurant and I calmed down enough to go in, and we had a good lunch, but barely talked. I was still upset and angry. All this took about a hour of wasted time driving around. He still never acknowleged that he was wrong to not respond to me when I asked him where he wanted to go. He did apologise for belittling my suggestions, though, and I admitted that I tend to go on about things, but only if I feel that he is not understanding or acknowledging me. I know that I'm partially responsible for these petty arguments. but I don't know how to change this destructive pattern. My husband just wants to "drop it" and it never gets resolved. We argued about this and many other petty things over and over again and I just want it to stop. I love my husband and I know that he loves me, but sometimes it feels like we are enemies at war, and this is not a good example for our daughter. Also, I am 4 months pregnant, and the stress is not good for me or the baby. Help! And please don't suggest divorce. I am determined to do whatever it takes to save our marriage. Please tell me objectively what each of us is doing wrong. Thanks (link)
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No,I don't reccommend divorce here babe,but your man may have some issues at work he's stressed out about. Maybe he wasn't quite ready for your new baby. You have to talk to him about what's going on and he can't just "drop it". He was being an asshole about the food thing and if my daughter and wife were hungry,then goddamn it,they're getting fed. Petty arguments are part of being married for years. You can't get rid of them and they won't go away. If he doesn't ever physically abuse you and you just argue,that's normal. He called you a psycho,which is odd,because he must have been REALLY pissed. If it continues,try a marriage counselor who is much more qualified at giving advice than I am.
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I think you are right about the work stress thing, but it's not right for him to take it out on me, or our daughter. We argue, but he has never hit me, and we've been married for 7 years. I get very emotional, but I don't think that makes me a psycho. He appologised to me last night for being so hostile, and said he would try to do better. He even hugged and kissed me. Thanks for your good advice. :-)
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