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Q: I apologize if this ends up being really long, but I thought I'd ask.

I've been friends with this girl, we'll call her Sabrina, since the 8th grade. We grew to be really close really fast and ended up going to the same high school. That's kind of a big deal since we live in Chicago and most kids separate after grade school.
Anyway, we remained best friends up until I had a tough time in early 2003 and ended up dropping out of school. We lost contact up until a couple of months ago. The fact that we didn't keep in touch is pretty much my fault. I apologized for it, she appears to have forgiven me and we started hanging out again.
Sabrina is 18 now and recently moved in with her boyfriend because she was unhappy living with her mom. Only, now that she lives with her boyfriend, he wants to maintain complete control of her life, including who she hangs out with.
He told her she wasn't allowed to hang out with me anymore and she's actually obliging him.

I don't know if I should just deal with it and talk to her whenever I can, or if I should just let her know we shouldn't be friends at all anymore or what! I'm pretty hurt. Any advice would be appreciated and I will rate everyone who responds. Thanks.

Alrighty. Well her boyfriend sounds like a jackass. She should probably realize that she shouldn't have a boyfriend that does that to her. If I was in your shoes, I would go up and talk to her boyfriend (after making sure Sabrina is okay with it). Tell him how you feel about him not allowing Sabrina to hang out with you. Also try to mention that you have been friends since 8th grade and obviously that's a really long time. If he doesn't change the way he is allowing Sabrina to live, talk to Sabrina and tell her that this guy is not a very good boyfriend to be controling her life like this. Be nice about it because you don't want to ruin your friendship. She how she responds to that and I hope I helped. Good Luck!!

Rating: 5

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