Kendra is a young woman working as a professional in Toronto. She's a cat lover, a bookworm and has always had a deeply rooted interest in people, love and what happens when the former attempts the later.
She's been in three long term relationships, lost her mother when she was 16 and has lived through her father's alcoholism and drug abuse. She's a college graduate in journalism and art, has a quirky personality and has acquired some realistic yet romantic beliefs about love and relationships.
She lives with her boyfriend. Life may not have always been good, but it is good now.
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ok im 13/f..i have a boyfriend that wants to do "stuff" like..he wants a h/j and stuff but im not really ready..hes expecting it though like tomorrow or something. PLEASE help :'(..idk what to do.. (link)
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He's expecting it? Oh hell to the no.
You were not put on this earth to sexually service this guy. You're only 13. You're probably thinking about kissing and holding hands and stuff like that.
Teenage boys are, well, perverts. I don't mean any disrespect to them, but they are. Sex on the brain. The sooner you learn to stand up to them and their demands, the stronger a woman you'll become.
Tell him, with no apologies this:
"I know you want a handjob, but I'm not ready to do that kind of stuff. If you like me, you won't pressure me to do stuff I don't want to do. If that's all you want in a girlfriend, find a new one."
Practice this in the mirror, be firm and tell him what's what. He may find another girlfriend, but big loss. Trust me, you're not going to marry the guy you went out with at 13. The sooner you stop dating losers who pressure you, the happier you'll be.
Let this be the theme of your love life-- when YOU are ready, YOU will initiate the sexual things. He can try, but it's your call and that's just all there is to it. He can either get with the program or get off the bus.
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thank you! i found out that he was doing this with at least five girls all at the same time and i was the only one who said no because of what you said here!
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