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I need some good advice about my sister. She is 15 yrs. old {I am 21 if that matter's} and has been getting in alot of trouble at school & home. She got into a fight at school, stole my mom's car one night to go joy riding, tried to hook-up with a 26 year old ex-convict, and the other day was caught giving a note to a boy with a condom inside, asking him when they were gonna have sex! My mom, or me doesnt know what to do anymore. Talking to her about this doesn't seem to phase her. She just cries, promises to do better and never does. Do you think she is doing this for attention? Also, I told my mom I think she need's to get on birth-control, for the obvious reasons, so she will not get pregnant. My mom said NO! she said putting her on birth-control is just going to give my sister the go-ahead to have sex. I don't know if she has ever had sex or not, but if she's passin' out condoms to people then i dont think it'll be to long before she does. Any advice? (link)
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since you're twenty-one, technically you're old enough to take your sister to a clinic and have her put on birth control yourself. if you don't like this idea, you could even go and get birth control, but give it to her instead. no matter what your mother says, birth control is a definite requirement for this girl. even if she takes it as the go-ahead, at least you know she's safe.
this girl needs to be punished. not hardcore, locked-inside-the-house deals; those would only further encourage her to rebel. but it does sound like she's simply trying to get attention, so give her some. and if you're in a bad area, i would even suggest something as serious as moving to a better one, where the odds were less likely that she could get into so much trouble.
just try and express your concerns for your sister, show her some nasty pictures of stds, and, most importantly, tell her that although you're worried, you ABSOLUTELY TRUST HER JUDGEMENT. this is the guilt-trip approach; you should try and make her feel honored that you respect her, convey that you are confused about her recent behavior, and make sure she knows that you want to be proud of who she is. put all this as positively as possible, and the honor she should feel may well be enough to steer her in the right direction.
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